Have you ever been in a classroom and many people were talking as the teacher was teaching? In an effort to get the attention of the class, the teacher calls your name and asks you to stop talking. Now I am fully aware that this would upset some students because there is an appearance that they are being unfairly targeted. A student’s reply would be something like, “out of all the people talking, you pick on me?” It sounds like a great point. However, it’s the wrong time to make that point. It’s the wrong time to make that point because the teacher is the authority figure in that room and he/she must have the attention of the class. It is their job to get that attention because the curriculum needs to be taught. After all, that is why you go to school. If this situation sounds too familiar to you, these are two possibilities:
1. You weren’t talking: In this case, you have nothing to worry about. If you feel the need to let the teacher know you weren’t talking, then you are free to do that privately. I’m sure you will be able to reach an understanding.
2. You were talking and you have a history of behavior concerns: To you I would ask: “how long will you continue this behavior?” By your behavior, you have trained your teachers to suspect you and you have no one to blame but yourself. This may sound harsh, but if you want to change, you have to understand that it begins with you. You also have to understand that it may not happen as soon as you want it to happen. People will truly begin to accept that you have changed after you exhibit change over a lengthy period of time.
Think about it.